Desire is no longer spontaneous for women in long-term relationship, which could be anything from 6 months to 18 months into relationship. This desire becomes more responsive, which means when woman’s partner stimulates her, she starts to respond to it rather than initiates it. Sexual pleasure then becomes an effort, and women during this stage needs to constantly remind themselves that sex is good for them. It is compared to motivation to go to the gym. We are aware of the reward after the gym, but we still have to make an effort to get out of bed every morning to get there.
75% of women cannot and will not climax during sex but rather through clitoris stimulation. Recent studies show that for women that can achieve orgasm during intercourse, the distance between their clitoris and viginal opening is shorter.
Sexual pleasure constantly evolves. What feels good at one time might not feel good at another. Some positions which are great with one partner might not work with another. Therefore, it is normal for a woman that cannot achieve climax with one man might do so with another man.
Clitoris has been proven to be the main and most consistent form of female orgasm and pleasure in many studies.
Women have an average of one orgasm for every three that men have during sexual encounters. This number is a lot lower in developing countries. For many women, an orgasm during sex simply doesn’t exist.
The average time that it takes for women to orgasm from masturbation is the same as the average time that it takes men, which is about 4 minutes.
Women that have sex with other women have orgasm rates that are much higher than straight women’s, almost as high as straight men’s
The expectation of vaginal orgasm is one of the reasons why women are orgasming less and the pressure to have one is one of the reasons why over 50% of women report having faked an orgasm before.
During hookups, less than 50% of women feel sexually satisfied although sexual satisfaction is what got them to choose these one night stands from the first place. The men in these cases also admitted that, they were more selfish and cared less about their lover.
Orgasm doesn’t need to involve genitals. Orgasm reflex can be triggered by a broad range of input including thinking oneself to orgasm. In one extreme case, a woman can have orgasm when brushing teeth due to the vibrating impact of the toothbrush on the teeth. In another case, a woman can just climax by touching her eyebrows.
The majority of women still sacrifice their orgasm for the men’s. For some, it is a wife’s duty. To a few, it is a tool to get something or somewhere. For most traditional Asian women who are in a long-term relationship, if sex isn’t painful and the man climaxes and seems to be very happy, it is good sex.
Asian women don’t have sexual urges as often as men and when they do, they don’t tend to act on it. They dismiss it and divert their attention to something else. After all, women don’t really get “blue balls” as the men do.
Most women in Asia don’t masturbate. Sex toys are few and far between. If they do, they are likely to use a dildo rather than finger themselves or play with their clitoris. And due some religious restrictions, any action rather than a penis in a vagina is not sex. This including sodomy.
It takes women around 15 minutes to shut their mind down and relax, but most couples don’t have 15 minutes. Before women could switch off, the play is over. This could lead women to resent sex and associate men with horny creatures that are obsessed with sex.
Adapted from different talks and sources.