Asian women growing up with Taoism as a teaching paradigm coupled with listening to girls’ talks every now and then at gatherings as well as the media featuring happy lives of beautiful women and their rich successful husbands, it is natural for Asian women to look for a man that is capable of taking care of his family so that they can retire to be a dutiful wife. I am not saying that all Asian women are like that, but the majority will show great interest in you if you are financially sound. What if making a killing isn’t your strength or it isn’t something you are interested in? Below are a few things you can do to improve your chances of winning a fine lady:
- Being funny: Statistics show that comedians are one of the highest earning people in the show business, which means people willingly part with their money for an enjoyable evening. Who doesn’t enjoy a good laugh? Maybe you aren’t funny but you can try. Just start with some jokes you find online; make sure your repertoire includes clean and dirty ones of different lengths to suit different audiences. Dirty jokes are great to test a woman’s language ability (if you date a cross cultural one) since they have many slangs, how smart she is and how comfortable she is when talking about sex. The best way to remember a joke is to tell it many times. You might want to test it out among your friends before actually trying to impress a woman. You don’t want it to fall flat or have to explain it afterwards. Eventually, you will be able to develop an ability to crack a joke at the right moment or see funny sides in little things. If you make a person laugh hard, they will like you. If you make a woman laugh hard, she will remember you and want to see you again Jokes can also help pick up your mood and are great ice breakers. And maybe they can turn you into the life and soul of a party or any party. Also don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself; just don’t make it too ridiculous. So what are you waiting for?
- Learn how to cook: Although women tend to gain weight more easily than men, they eat junk food more often than their counterparts. In Vietnamese culture there is a saying that goes “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”. I am not sure if it is still valid but I am certain the opposite is true for women. We admire a good cook and we think a man who can cook well is very sexy as long as he is not so meticulous or difficult in his daily life as when he makes food. Women associate the ability to cook with the sign of sharing housework, basically a good catch. You might not have time to learn how to cook properly, but surely you can watch a few cooking shows to make some typical meat, salad, soup dishes and desserts. Try to be versatile and choose the dish you love the most to be your signature; prepare it differently to make it impossible to have it elsewhere.
- Be observant: Women love through the ears and they know that men love through the eyes, so they try hard to look good for themselves and to turn men’s eyes. When you go on a date with a woman even if you just know her through an online app or social media, there must be at least something you like about her. Let’s start with it. Look at her picture carefully before you meet her. When you see her the first time, find something different about her to comment on. I believe everyone is beautiful in their own way; so look hard, and if she is truly a beauty, don’t be economical with words. Generally, women spend a considerable amount of time on make-up, hairdo, choosing an outfit and accessories. If you cannot spot anything different, or nothing particularly catches your eyes, a simple “you look nice today” is enough to get a smile from her and make her relaxed. Remember that the praises have to be sincere.
- Be a gentleman: Now it is controversial whether a man should pull a chair out and make sure she sits down before he does or if he should open the door for her and keeps it open for the person behind her/ him or if he should shelter her from traffic when they walk along the street, etc. I know that in the West, women like to be independent and strong and they want to show that they are capable of doing everything without a man’s help. In Asia, we are perfectly capable of doing so; however, being chivalrous is an indication of being caring and considerate towards others. We secretly appreciate men who do that. It is also a cultural thing when it comes to buying a drink. In Western culture, men and women buy their own drinks, but in Asia, men should offer to buy women a drink. Let her decide if she wants to take up on that offer. Now you are worried that if you pay for every date’s drink, it might be costly. Indeed, you can reduce the costs by being selective in the type of women you ask out and the venue where you take her to. The big no is to agree to meet at the park to avoid paying for her drink. You can take a stroll in the park later after you meet her if that’s what you want, some fresh air and a romantic walk. If money is tight, don’t be afraid to hint at it. She might even buy you a drink.
- Be neat and presentable: Not every woman will go for a rich man. There are still many women that prefer a good-looking man than a rich man. Now that you aren’t either, at least you can be presentable. Ask before you go on a date with her if you can wear casuals and if she is doing the same. You don’t want a huge mismatch between your outfit and hers. It is obvious that you need to take a shower, comb your hair and iron clothes that need ironing. Men that pay attention to their appearance tend to attract more women since it is a sign of decency and self-respect.
- Be hard-working and reliable: You are not rich but you are willing to work hard. You aren’t afraid to work many jobs to make your life better. If you cannot provide them with luxuries, at least you shouldn’t be a burden for them. The fact that Asian women start to be financially independent doesn’t mean that they don’t want to rely on you when in needs.
- Be a good lover: Good sex accounts for more than 50% of a successful marriage or a partnership. Most men have a pretty good idea of what they want and what tickles them; most Asian women don’t. Conservative women, virgin girls and inexperienced women need help to become less inhibited. Men cannot just go directly for women’s breasts or vagina when these are the areas that are most guarded. Sometimes they have to slowly introduce touch by touch. For this purpose, Sheila’s Approach Massage Training was created. With hundreds of students of 50 nationalities around the world for the past 4 years, Sheila’s Approach Massage has been tested and proved to be highly effective in helping women enjoy sex, want to have sex and addicted to the masseuse.