After the previous post covering the how I started my nuru career, in this post, we will focus on the effect of nuru on the masseuse, the introduction of how to massage and kiss women’s body properly, aka Sheila’s Approach Massage.
Have you ever gone all the way with clients?
Never. There is a fine line between a sensual massage and prostitution. For me, it’s an art, and I am an artist and a choreographer; nuru routine is my dance and the bed is my studio. Several clients have been inspired by me to become a nuru massage therapists but my answer has always been the same ” I don’t teach men nuru”. Over 6 years, I have been offered more money by some clients at the end of my massage to have sex with me. I have also received a few offers of spending the night with some potential clients. They ranged from $500 to $3500, but I have never accepted these. I cannot picture myself having sex with someone for money and let them do whatever they want with me. For me, sex must be mutual and enjoyable with lots of foreplay, kissing, moaning and groaning with or without climax. Once you have crossed that thin line, you cannot go back since it’s easier to make more money as a sex worker nor can you wash yourself of that reputation. Besides, having orgasm during sex is easy; making a person explode with orgasm or turning their body into a giant sexual organ without having sex with them is hard. We have been fixated on sex, in particular, penetration sex for far too long. We know that orgasm doesn’t have to involve sexual organs. It’s time people should shift their focus to the entire body instead of one part of the body.
How does nuru massage work for you?
As a nuru masseuse, I could zonk out for hours after an intense nuru and if I have trouble sleeping, nuru can always fix it. More often than not, it’s a good deep sleep. Once in a while, I woke up after a nuru and felt as if I were 10 years older and I had slept through all this time. It was a feeling of emptiness and oblivion. In 2005, sometimes I had 2 nuru per day and 7 nuru a month. My body was sore all over and I couldn’t sleep for 3 days. I tried to lie on left and on the right or even on my stomach. I tried to sleep with no pillow or a different pillow or propped up certain body part; it didn’t help. After one extreme massage, I could even hear the blood running through my right foot veins and I grew more aware of my surroundings; things became more intense and vivid. At one time, I broke out in a rash and it took 4 days for it to go away. The spots were tiny, red, ugly and itchy. At another time, the rash didn’t go away until 7 days later. I thought to myself, “’lots of women spend money on making their skin better and I am here exchanging my skin for money. What if the cost of fixing the problem was higher than what I made from the problem itself? And what if the damage goes beyond repair?” It dawned on me that I had to regulate the massages; hence came 4 nuru a month rule. If I pushed it, it would be 5 or 6 but never 7 again. For this reason, a nuru was then increased to $150/ hour from $100 as its original price. Some clients with thick upper body could leave me pull my shoulders; there came the extra charge of clients who weigh from 90 kilos or are taller than 1.9 m tall. It is hard to explain to clients that their disproportionate body weight and height or BMI that actually can cause an injury, so I just apply extra charge to treat any injuries afterwards. While for tall people, it takes longer time to finish the routine on their body and it’s justifiable for an extra fee, for short people, I cannot charge them extra or tell them it is harder to slide since if they are of my height or slightly taller than me, where would I slide? Certain nuru moves can be hard on knees, wrists and shoulder blades; after sustaining a few injuries myself, I’ve learned to cut back the number of reps of these moves. When I was a few months into the nuru business, I came down with cold and bronchitis quite often due to late night’s work and long showers, then there’s heart problems. Nuru is an art but it’s also a heavy workout; a nuru masseuse has to bear her weight while allowing only her skin to touch a client’s skin. Therefore, breathing right is quite important and back then I didn’t know this. My job also teaches me how to listen to my body for irregularities. First, I developed anxiety then I learn how to control it or make it work for me when I need to. Nuru should be given properly, which is when the masseuse has a clear head and still has lots of energy to spend while the client is not influenced by alcohol or did not exert himself in any form before or the day of the massage. I developed my routine through trials and errors on myself so that future generations of nuru masseuses won’t suffer the same health problems. My routine is more or less perfect, but as people always say, it can always get better. I’ve been trying to add more moves to make a two-hour routine instead of just 1.5 hour maximum.
How did the idea of teaching men how to massage come to you? How long have you been teaching?
I had always been interested in sensual massage since my first with the Australian ex. I dated many men after that and even got married but none of the men knew how to touch my body. All they did was to touch here and there, my thighs, my breasts and perform a cunnilingus. I have quite sensitive breasts, so it was difficult to navigate around my body without causing me any discomfort; eventually all the men gave up. I also gave up and accepted that as long as the man I dated had an orgasm, it was all that matters. Then I forgot all about it.
It was in 2015 before going to BKK for a holiday, I placed an ad on a website looking for clients before my arrival. A celebrity personal trainer contacted me and asked me for 3 hours of nuru massage with 3 intervals of 15 minutes each. We agreed on the date and time; I even booked a hotel near his workplace so he could walk over to have the massage. When it drew closer to the date, I got cold feet and backed out since I thought it would be impossible to keep up the massage quality and I didn’t want people to remember me by a not-so-great experience. Up to that time, I had not accepted a repeat client. I wanted a nuru experience with a client to be a unique, incomparable and the best one. I had 7 days in BKK and only two clients during that time; with lots of spare time on my hand, I started to hang out with people I matched on Tinder and the idea of showing people how to give massages to women popped up in my head. By then I had already had one year’s experience of nuru massage under my belt, so building something new based on nuru routine was a natural thing to do. A draft of what a sensual massage for women was like started to form and I needed to try it out to see how it would work. Before the men arrived at my place, I set certain conditions, telling them about possible outcomes and if they agreed to “no staying over and no sex”, they could come. At that time, Sheila’s Approach Massage wasn’t coined yet; it had no name, and its movements were not consistent or did not flow well together. My test subjects were a biology student, a general director, and computer science engineer, and national football team coach. I saw the effect on me and the effect on the guys, and it looked promising. It was always the same; I ended up dripping wet and had to have a shower to wash it away and the guys didn’t want to leave hoping there would be more. They followed my lead, and they became desirable and almost irresistible in my eyes, but I had my personal and religious reasons for not having sex with them. One of them made me feel like we belonged to each other and the thought being with him lingered for a year. We decided to date a year later and finished what we had started, but a year later the feeling wasn’t the same because I did not teach him again or help him review the routine. Anyway, the fling between us got me to realize that my technique was very powerful; it could bring out sensuality in people and make people fall in love if they decide to act on the impulse right away.
I repeated the test in another trip to BKK a few months later with a few more subjects; I cannot remember what they did but one of them was a journalist. I enjoyed my time in BKK with lots of fun, full of pleasure and wild nights. I chose BKK because I thought people there were more open to the idea of being taught how to become a better lover and Vietnam might not be ready for it, nor ready for me. Then I grew tired of BKK and decided to introduce it to people in Vietnam. My first two clients that bought a nuru and Sheila’s Approach Massage together were an English teacher and a scientist working for ILA. Sheila’s Approach Massage back then served as an extended session to build up the clients’ libido since it was hands-on. Imagine, you are teased for 90 minutes to 2 hours by touching a beautiful body, tasting the skin but not allowing to release your urges or acting upon your impulse within a controlled environment then an extra hour of sensual touch and edging, who wouldn’t explode into fireworks of orgasm? It’s like bondage without accessories, no pain infliction, no vulgar words, no costumes just two willing naked bodies into each other. For a nuru masseuse, it’s best to stay single since every massage is like having an intimate encounter with the man. The masseuse has to put herself into the shoe of a girlfriend and imagine the client were her boyfriend. Eventually, Sheila’s Approach Massage was marketed as a separate product since some men are only into giving not receiving. Also, the females in couples are not comfortable enough to send their male partner to have an intimate experience with another woman even if the result of it is to please them better.
As of 2021, I have been teaching Sheila’s Approach Massage for at least 5 years and the joy it gives me has been tremendous. I have received hundreds of feedback on how wonderfully it worked, how great sex people have, how people got engaged thanks to it, how women are addicted to it and how confident men get in themselves, which is the greatest thing I can do for my clients. I have always searched for the meaning and purpose of my life; now I have found it. My dream is for it, one day, to become a life-skill course that is offered alongside other CPR and survival courses.
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