The first time I exchanged a Sheila’s Approach Massage training session for a deep tissue massage was with an English therapist. He was in his late thirties or at least I thought so. There was no way I could guess his age exactly because he looked too young to be in his massage career for 15 years. He was semi-retired, according to him, giving only 5 or 6 massages a month to regular client. He would charge roughly 250 pounds per hour since his routine was special. He had blonde hair and very posh accent. He taught himself “ the Queen English”. He told me he was unique in his approach and he was very good at what he did. He specialized in back and leg deep tissue massage and he guaranteed I would feel my ribs moving. At that time, I was maybe a year or so into the new technique, so I was quite eager to experience new things. He indeed delivered his promise. He fixed my lower back and gave my leg a good workout. For the first time in my life, I could sense my right ribs and feel they move underneath different muscles. It was an enlightening experience and I would do again in a heartbeat. After the session, he admitted to me that he had a hard time adopting my technique since for him, massaging is about moving muscles and bones and releasing tension by going deep using thumbs and knuckles kneading all the knots out. I showed him that our body very much needs gentle strokes, caressing to bring out, or should I say, regain sensitiveness that we somehow lost as we age.
After the first wonderful sharing experience, I constantly searched for another therapist to learn from. The second one I met was a French teacher. If I remember correctly, he taught science or math in public school in France. He had accumulated different a year’s worth of massage certificates on and off throughout his visits to Thailand. He told me that anyone could get 80% of Thai massage routine in a basic course. The rest is just add-on, which deepens people’s knowledge of massage if they choose to pursue it as a professional. His ex-girlfriend was a Thai massage therapist and she told him the way to identify a good masseuse is to experience a neck massage since it’s the most difficult and dangerous part to work on. I couldn’t agree with him more since I have received quite a few massages in Vietnam and after a few neck injuries caused by these massage girls, I stopped allowing them to touch me anywhere on from waist up except for my arms, my face and my scalp. After the French therapist gave me a proper Thai massage that I knew of, it was his turn to learn by practising the technique on me. He carefully documented what I said afterwards and also asked me to clarify a few details.
A few months later, I ran into an Italian therapist renting an Airbnb in Icon 56 in HCMC. I wasn’t sure if he had any background training in massage, but he worked for his uncle at a sports massage center somewhere in Italy. His uncle only works with famous athletes and I supposed he learned it on the job training. After giving me a sports massage, he told me about a few conditions that most people had. He also showed me a few exercises I could do for 15 minutes every night that were fool proof; i recognized two of the moves; they were from Yoga. He also demonstrated what to do with my belly if I ever have a digestion problem. After 2 weeks, he returned to HCMC and asked to pay for the same routine done to him. That was the first time I gave someone a full massage demonstration, aka, Sheila’s Approach Massage. It was that meeting that got me started a new service later on.
The fourth therapist was an American owner of a Thai massage school in Chicago. He rented a villa in an alley in D3 near the school where I worked. His manners were quite professional- he treated me as I was his coach. He offered different massages: Thai, Swedish and Shiatsu but I just wanted a basic Thai massage routine. He asked me if I wanted focus on any certain part and a few questions that a certified masseuse should ask any client before a massage. He started with a Wai and ended with a namaste. He asked me a lot of questions afterward, hoping to improve his skills in pleasing women.
The fifth encounter with a therapist wasn’t an exchange. He was an Australian farmer travelling with his nephew. They rented the top floor of a shop house with 2 rooms and shared bathroom in a market in D1. He went to college for a year to learn massage but it was a hobby not work for him. The idea of having a massage by someone that’s gone to college for it was exciting. He never promised an erotic massage no. As he worked, he asked for permission to work on body parts that all professionals in massage parlor would stay away from. One strange thing was he never actually touched me where these parts are but toward the end of the massage, I was already too excited and horny. You could have guessed what happened next. I met him one more time for another massage a few weeks later when he came back to HCMC and the same thing happened. Then it dawned on me that, men don’t need to know how to give an erotic massage, they just need to give a massage and with some knowledge of how body works and some teasing, they can make women beg for sex willingly. And if these men know Sheila’s Approach massage, how powerful can these men be? Women have had too many bad sex encounters, they are willing to pay for, beg for, and actively look for sex if it promises to be an amazing experience.
On a different occasion, I met a British man, about 50 years old on Tinder. We went for a coffee on the top floor of Coffee Beans on Han Thuyen street in D1. He went on for half an hour saying how good he was with women and he had been probaly with 50 women or so He thought men should pay him to teach them how to “fuck” women properly. He had no problem with finding attractive women for sex and he thought he could teach me a thing or two about women’s body. He told me about his foreplay routine and it was perfect and all women loved him for it; he didn’t see the reason why he should take a lesson with me. He was definitely an experienced lover and this showed in his confidence. I thought to myself “ He seems to know more about women than most men I’ve talked to and it was good for him and lucky for the women he had sex with.” Then before I left, he decided to make a proposal; he would have a Sheila’s Approach Massage training session on a condition that he would perform his foreplay routine on me first to see what I thought of his and gave him my honest opinion. We agreed on the date and time. I looked at the watch before we started and let him show me uninterrupted his pride and his best. It was around 15 minutes; he commented on his strengths such as his air strokes and his kisses. He got some good moves but they were erratic and illogical. He was all ears and eagerly began our training. At the end of the session, he told me he learned a lot from my lesson, “A good lover can always get better at making love”.
The next encounter with a massage therapist wasn’t an exchange. My client was an American massage therapist, quite popular among expats in D2. I got to know him probably a year or two before he had a nuru with me. At that time, he was new to Saigon and we met at a coffee in D5. I told him what I did and he decided to follow suit by offering therapeutic massage in addition to yoni massages. He was a licensed massage therapist; therefore, it gives him the right to look down on other unlicenced ones including me or especially me since at first he misunderstood my service and thought my serice was a sex service masked under erotic massage. He followed my blog a while and finally decided to have a nuru with me in a hotel on BV street, D1. He was the second client that I’ve worked with who can control his ejaculation. We talked about this afterwards and apparently he confirmed what my Hungarian client said about what muscles helped control ejaculation and what training they took to achieve this. He also confirmed my theory that as a massage therapist, it’s easy to have sex with women. He had never had problem with getting laid. He could have as much sex as he wanted and each time as enjoyable as it could be. We talked a few more times and he even considered sending his girlfriend to learn nuru with me but that never happened since I was not happy with the fact that he smoked a lot and the language he used, so I pushed back the appointment for later date in the future.
The last therapist I worked with was from Australia. He was a full-time IT professional and a licensed masseuse on the side. We exchanged pleasntries and I asked him about what it was like to be a masseuse in Australia and if it was safe to give massages at people’s houses. He told me the biggest problem with a masseuse is to have a good massage since massage therapists have expectations, know their stuff and think they give damn good massages. Sometimes it is easy for a massage therapist to just relax and enjoy a massage. At other times, they can just feel, compare and criticize basic mistakes that others make. I was under pressure since I know a colleage was going to watch me and maybe find faults with my routine. At the end of the session, he told me it was wonderful and he would come back for another one. I was so relieved and happy. He shared with me some tricks of how to be safe when working overseas. He told me that nuru or even prostitution is legal in Australia; you just have to register with the government. He told me my nuru wouldn’t be popular in his country since there’s no point to have nuru; people would just go straight for sex. He was missing the point; what makes Sheila’s nuru so good is because men can see but not touch, teased and not in control. And if taken away their sight, men have to focus on feelings on their whole body, the smell and the power of visualization of the mind, the connection between the mind and the body, the whole body orgasm.
Before I left Vietnam, another popular massage therapist wanted to exchange a nuru for a yoni massage with me. He worked for two of the most expensive resorts in Vietnam. I politely refused since I had never, have never and will never exchange a nuru for a massage. There were many reasons why I said no, but the point is these professionals would never offer Yoni in the US or in Europe since the law never allows professionals to have any kind of sexual relationship or contact with clients. Yoni massage is even more intimate than nuru since the therapist has to massage the vagina- outside and inside-https://meandnuru.blogspot.com/2017/02/sheilas-nuru-massage-and-tantra-tantric.html?q=tantric. There is a fine line between prostitution and nuru massages, and nuru massages that the public know of are the ones in porn. Unless I make a training video on it and show the public nuru massage can be an art, a workout routine, a foreplay skill that all women should have, a marriage lifeline, a bedroom practice, it will still be misunderstood, frowned upon, shunned away and banned.