Skin- Physiology
While the brain is the most powerful sexual organ, skin is our largest sexual organ. 16% of our body weight is our skin. People can live with one lung, or one kidney, but if we lose more than 50% of our skin, we will die. Skin protects us, regulates our body temperature, give us sensations and help us produce vitamin D for healthy bones. In addition to the nerve endings for the sense of touch, the skin has three varieties of little bodies which have specialised functions: (a) for general touch; (b) for light touch; (c) for pressure touch.
An example of general touch could be a pat on the shoulder or a high-five. Light touch could be understood as the act of caressing or stroking. As for pressure touch, it could be poking, pressing, probing, examining with intention as in a deep tissue massage or in a physiotherapy session.
Touch: Importance of Touch
We can survive and maybe thrive with the loss of other senses but not touch. It’s nearly impossible not to feel even when we try to. The sense of touch begins in the womb; it is the first sensory system to develop in vertebrate animals. In humans, it starts in the embryo, about 6 to 8 weeks into pregnancy. Some researchers agree that touch is the most primitive form of communication, and touch is not just for lovers. In fact, touch deprivation, especially within the first two years of human life, can lead, not only to emotional disturbances but also, to a lessened intellectual ability and physical growth, reduced sexual interest and even a weakness in the immune system. Our sense of touch is not situated in the top layer of skin, the epidermis, but further down in the dermis where specialised skin cells act as receptors for stimuli. A Swedish neuroscientist have recently discovered a new set of nerve fibre in the skin that respond to only gentle of touches. Unlike their fast signal nerves which can travel up to 250 miles per hour, these slow nerve impulses take a leisure stroll at 2 miles per hour. They travel to a different part of the brain that processes emotions and tells us what we feel when we touch instead of what we touch and details of the touch.
Touch- Its Importance in Foreplay
Proportional to their size, women have more skin area than men, due to their more round contours in the breasts, thighs, and buttocks. Because of this, women need more electricity of love to reach orgasm, but on the other hand, their orgasms last longer and are electrically more intense. (According to scientists, women’s orgasm last 3 times as long as men’s.)
Since skin is our largest sexual organ, and the entire body, from head to toe, is one big erogenous zone. This is especially true of women, as the female body is generally smaller than the male and the same numbers of nerves are consequently dispersed across a smaller surface area; hence the number of sensitive receptors is proportionally larger on the female body. Second, the female skin is generally thinner and less hairy than the male, so sensations are more clearly felt.
Lovemaking is obviously a good time to touch each other for this is often the only time when we are completely naked and have our entire naked skin available, ready and willing to be touched in any erogenous zone. Erogenous means “arouses sexual desire.” Men and women should know and understand their own erogenous zones and the erogenous zones of their partners.
The maximum sensitivity zones for women are genital organs, lips and tongue, eyelids and nose, breasts and nipples. The high sensitivity erogenous zones in women are her cheeks, her ears, her neck, shoulders, waist, hands buttocks and of course her inner thighs. These erogenous zones have a very high concentration of nerve endings and special receptors.
How we touch is very important. Some people lose beautiful touch because they are too lustful and hasty. Women are very sensitive; they can tell if a man is into them sincerely and is treating them as an equal or just trying to get into their pants and cares only about himself. If a woman fail to see something obvious, it is possibly that she plays dumb rather than she is ignorant. Nobody wants to make a false move to have their intention questioned in bed especially if they meant well.
Sheila’s Approach Massage Training.
Sheila’s Approach Massage addresses all the above; it covers all women’s body with the intention to help the giver single out each woman’s sexual profile. Sheila’s Approach Massage Training consists of an erotic massage training session and a body kissing session. It is meant to trigger the slow nerve fibres to finally turn the whole body into a giant sexual organ and to make the recipient conscious of their body. Men might know all the erogenous zones and the importance of touch and sound, but they never actually sit down and turn foreplay into a science, a routine, a ritual where there is a start and a finish. Scientists, skin experts and activists always urge us to listen to our body without telling us where or how to start it. We are hard-wired to suppress sensations from our emotions just to respond to the outside world a little better. Sheila’s Approach Massage simply help reconnect those, so people can understand their body like they were supposed to.
Generally, it takes women 15 minutes to relax their mind. Even when women perform or receive some foreplay, there are millions of things going on in their mind. They might think about work, what they are about to eat, if they are clean and odourless, if they have their nice lingeries on, if their stomach protrude today, etc. Therefore, foreplay needs to last longer than 15 minutes to have any effect on women. Sheila’s Approach Massage takes this into account and it is designed to last anywhere from 1h15’ to 2 hours depending on the giver. It shows men how to turn a woman around skilfully, limit distractions, incorporate teasing and relaxing the body, mix licking and kissing, make women feel beautiful and confident in their body, make their body generate ample natural lubricant instead of resorting to risky oral jobs or artificial lube.
Sheila’s Approach Massage also shows men how to use breathing to their advantage, the pressure of the touch, the rhythm of the movement to get women excited. It teaches men how to read a woman’s body, how she reacts to excitement. It follows a logical order and it is easy to remember and practice. It’s also a good, fun workout exercise with variations that can be adjusted for different body types and purposes. It is such a powerful massage ritual that most men don’t perform the full routine for fear that women might fall in love with them too soon and too fast.
So Men, don’t wait until you’re in your fifties with some sexual problems to reclaim your libido to try this since it will be frustrating to find out that you can turn on any woman and that you are invincible in bed after wasting more than half of your life looking for an answer. And Women, if your partner doesn’t want to learn about it, why don’t you take an active role in learning it and show the man what to do with your body.