I met this Indian man at Highlands coffee and we started to talk about my job. Since every time, I give a Nuru massage, clients are asked to complete a sexual profile, so I have some insights into men’s sex life and sexual habits as well as fantasies. I told him also about how my Sheila’s Approach Massage and Sheila’s Nuru work well with people with erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. He suddenly raised a question that nobody had never asked me before. These are “How can a man know he has premature ejaculation? What is the average performance time for a guy to be classified as premature ejaculation?” Then I realised most clients had never told me how long they could keep it going before climax while being inside a woman except in extreme cases. For example, one of my Vietnamese clients noticed his performance time went down by 2 minutes and his normal love making session (in this article, it means the actual intercourse) was about 7 minutes. In another case, a Vietjet pilot told me after being spoiled by all massage parlours with hand jobs while being on the hunt for an authentic, sensual massage experience, he suddenly had this terrible condition in which he would just ejaculate whenever he saw someone he liked naked and by just touching her body, the game was over. Of course, this was all before I fixed them up and sent them away happily. Over the years, many men have tried to impress me by telling me about their love-making experience. They said they would stay in bed making love the whole day starting with waking the women up with their tongue, then some playing around and fucking, then breakfast, then going back for more and it went on from early in the morning till night time. When I confronted them, how long they actually spent being inside the women, some claimed to be three hours and never under an hour at a time. I was listening and smiled. I believe any thrusting or even gentle fucking for more than 30’ at any given time was literally unbearable. Long performances don’t mean the same for everyone. Some women want men to stay a bit longer inside; others want men to finish quickly. I have met plenty of men with delayed orgasm. They say they are ok with it but I know that deep down they are not happy at all since women don’t like it. They think they aren’t attractive enough to give the man the most powerful pleasure. Also, it’s tiring, frustrating and maybe painful for women to be “loved” that long; it’s a torture more than pleasure. Also, there seem to be no cure for delayed orgasm since it’s all in the mind. I have talked to an Indian sexologist; you can always find a product that makes a man get hard and stay hard but there is no product that can guarantee a man can climax when taking it. If it takes the man 1 minute to climax, then he should seek professional advice to prolong his performance. What if the man can stay hard and perform longer than that but it’s not as long as he wants, let’s say 10 minutes or 15 minutes? He can have many options rather than going straight to the doctor or massage therapists like me. The man’s performance only matters if he can stay hard enough to make the woman climax first or at least climax together, which has been proven quite difficult to achieve. In my previous posts, I did mention that it takes most women roughly 15’ to shut their mind down and start to be responsive and that 75% of women don’t have vaginal orgasm. In other words, a long performance might be too long. Even if a man can be an energiser and keep going for half an hour, she might never cum that way. So maybe it’s time for a man that thinks he has a premature ejaculation problem to re-examine himself. Should he find someone that can climax easily and happily with his short performance? Does his performance really matter if she can only have a shattering orgasm with clitoral stimulation? Let’s say, he finishes quickly, but can he start a new love making session in 30’ or an hour or simply can he try again on the same day? ( Bear in mind that this frequency will decrease over time and the wait time between sessions will be longer) Should he spend time having pleasure in different ways rather than being inside the woman? There are more than one way to make a woman crazy, and certainly intercourse isn’t the dominant way; it’s just the way that seems to be easiest and most known to men. If the man is worried about his premature ejaculation, he can always dedicate his time to foreplay and other sexual activities to make sure the woman is satisfied first. As long as the man is happy with an orgasm rather than none and the woman feels the sexual pleasure she receives from her partner, a long or short performance doesn’t matter. It’s the quality that counts not how many times a man’s tool can get in and out a woman. His problem is easier to bear, because he can climax, compared to men who have delayed orgasm, a condition even science has trouble finding a cure for, or men with erectile dysfunction whose a climax might be few and far between.
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