Some of my clients want me to give advice on the aforementioned matter so I decided to touch upon it today and hope it might be of service.

It is easy for men to separate the physical part and emotional part but I am afraid it doesn’t work the same for women. I have interviewed lots of men about this subject and they agreed that women at first are very eager to say yes to their offer but after a while our female friends start to say that they have developed greater than friend feelings for their male friends. I don’t know much about Western women in general but I can speak for the majority of Asian women and especially Vietnamese. Most Vietnamese agree to be your fuck buddy because they hope over time they can convert you to be their special someone. I for one have experienced a similar relationship; despite without the original intention of changing the man I was with, I ended up falling for my friend. As we couldn’t resume, we sat down and analyzed what went wrong and identify the factors that contributed to our failed friend zone status. We drew out a few conclusions that hopefully will help if you plan to embark on such a relationship with your friend:

– Don’t do activities with your friends that might build up good memories like going for a movie, going on vacation together, dining out, limiting the texting to the minimum and spare all the details of your day.
– Don’t try to be so caring, romantic and chivalrous. Don’t ever make her feel special by cooking a meal for her. If you want to do something for her, try to involve others in planning it.
– Make sure that she is aware of other female friends that you have and that she is not the only fuck buddy that you have. You might have to be honest about how many and briefly about who they are and if they know about your situation. ( This might deter her at first) Let the woman be informed and make her choice about being your FB. If you don’t start your FB relationship with a lie, you will not be caught in a bad situation later. She can never blame you if anything goes sour later.
– Constantly remind her that both of you are in it just for physical pleasure and that you have no plan of having a serious relationship or that you don’t want children.
– Don’t try to see longer than what both of you need. Spending the night isn’t a good idea. Always send her away or leave her place after each time you have sex.
– Don’t talk about your sex and how amazing you both feel.
– Treat her like a friend not like a date. Be specific about money. If you do dinner, don’t take her to fancy places, or places for couples. Split the bill if you can unless it is agreed in advance otherwise. (Some people choose to trade financial help for sexual pleasure)
– You might want to discuss all of these before you start such a relationship with anyone.
– Stop and check every month to make sure both are in control of their feeling and situation and whether continuing this relationship is a good choice.